|Change Your Story, Change Yourself|
(Part 2 of 3)
Let’s consider an unfortunate hypothetical situation in which a person reaches his or her mid-30s or -40s, and things aren’t going so well. This person’s self esteem is low, he is having a hard time finding work, or a romantic partner, or whatever… there are so many ways that things can be less than perfect in midlife. What should this person do if he’d like to make some serious changes in the way he experiences the world?
One suggestion, which is pertinent to this blog’s discussion of narrative and craft, is succinctly summed up by Maria Popova, who, in a review of psychologist Timothy Wilson’s newest book, Redirect, suggests that we approach life changes as narrative challenges. “Our experience of the world is shaped by our interpretations of it, the stories we tell ourselves,” she writes, “and these stories can often become so distorted and destructive that they completely hinder our ability to live balanced, purposeful, happy lives, so the key to personal transformation is story transformation.”
|Leverage Your Discomfort|
I feel like a lot of radio people harbor some deep-seated awkwardnesses. If you’re among them (among us), I’m here to tell you that not only is this ok, it can, in some circumstances, actually prove quite useful.
You’ve probably heard that an audience mimics the emotional state of the speaker. It’s true. If you’re watching someone speak confidently, you’ll feel more confident, and if you’re watching someone who’s uncomfortable, you’ll feel uncomfortable. What you probably have not heard, though, is that feeling uncomfortable can help you tell a more dramatic story.
This is one of the reasons I love this story by Noah St. John. You’ll probably want to go ahead and listen to it before reading the rest of this blogpost, because there are major spoilers coming up.